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Mental Health and Emotional Health are they related?

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Mental Health such as thinking, understanding, learning, and remembering is a learned pattern that we adapt to.  It’s part and parcel with our upbringings, environments and experiences.

Thinking and feelings are the alignment we have with our emotions, or the ability to   make a conscious choice or reasonable decisions through our willful determination. We are all intellectual human beings at least we like to think we are.  When we view parts of our personalities we can view from any perspective, whether we are at times strong, weak, loving, joyous, happy and free and giving.  Yet a part of us can get bogged down with the entrapment of emotions.  We may stay in our  head either getting stuck on them or ponder on them or dismiss them pretty quick.  We do have a choice to identify these feelings and let them go or stay stuck on them.  Usually the reason for getting stuck on them is because we don’t know how to let them go or find something inside of us that is unforgiving at the time, something that has hurt us perhaps.  Negative feelings are something that tells us that this does not resonate with us or a warning signal that something is not right. These feelings trigger an unwanted emotion that if not dealt with becomes no use to serving us to move on from the place we are at, to a place we would rather be.

Negative emotional health equals the capability to express all of our emotions in an unrelenting manner.  A deep hurt and for some a deep turmoil inside. This becomes a doing away with compassion and understanding towards ourselves and others, a self sabotage in itself when not dealt with, the repuctions can be devastating.  Our emotional intelligence tells us we want to be healed yet the emotions run a muck.  These negative emotions stay repressed and stuck.

Positive emotional health equals the capability to express all of our emotions in an appropriate way. Understanding ourselves and others and understanding that there will always be times when our emotions can get the better of us, however we have self-control. Inculcating good habits, we know that, deep inside us all, we have the emotional resilience we need to tackle life’s daily challenges, and when we let these emotions flow through with acceptance that this is just a moment and this is who we are and this is what makes us whole.  Doing so can eliminate high levels of stress and anxiety, fear, anger, depression and worry.

When the resilience fades away or gets washed out:  Positive management in our thinking and an expression of  emotional actions and reactions become unhealthy and stress or depression comes into play.  We can either go into fight or flight mode which can correspond with irrational thinking or sometimes even panic and or burn out.

Not all people have the confidence and self-esteem to tackle difficult issues in their life so this is when communication is crucial to get the right sort of support or help.

Here are some strategies to help you stay in the now or to help somebody that may be going through a difficult time: 

Seek out and embrace the positive and loving traits in yourself and your life, and avoid measuring your own worth by comparing yourself to those around you.

Take control over your environment.  When you have  learned how to best modify your unique circumstances for the best emotional balance, which leads to feelings of  acceptance and joyfulness for the moment, place your skills such as time management and prioritization along with believing in your ability to handle whatever life throws your way.

And last but not least practice mindfulness so that you are actively paying attention to the moment you’re in right now. Rather than letting your mind wander, when you’re mindful you’re living in the moment and letting distracting or negative thoughts pass through your mind without getting caught up in their emotional implications.  

Make conscious choices to inculcate good habits. 

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CURRENT ISSUES DEVELOPMENT WITH GLOBALIZATION (POST MODERNISM)

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CURRENT ISSUES DEVELOPMENT WITH GLOBALIZATION (POST MODERNISM)

CURRENT ISSUES DEVELOPMENT WITH GLOBALIZATION (POST MODERNISM) VERSES SOCIAL CHANGES AND DIVERSITY IN THE WORK FORCE

By NZ Life Coaching 

  • CURRENT ISSUES
    • DEVELOPMENT WITH GLOBALIZATION (POST MODERNISM) VERSES SOCIAL CHANGES AND DIVERSITY
    • Predicting the unpredictable with technology accelerating from where we are now to where we are going. Our cities being the force behind world economies breaking down barriers and bringing countries closer, developing processes of merging national economies into one united global economy.
    • Globalization – Post modernism – A process of transformation of local or regional organisations and integration of national economics moving into the international economy through trade and post modernism being trends and movements with an International style of innovation.
    • Business’s in many countries or places are up against social change, migration, economic growth (foreign investment) and networking, exchange of trade (goods and services) being just a few examples. In this modern-day…

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BELIEVING IN YOURSELF

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In Your Space of Solitude.

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BELIEVING IN YOURSELF

INCREASE YOUR HAPPINESS WITH ENJOYING YOUR SOLITUDE
By Debra Boyle (Personal Holistic Coach)

So many times I hear of people’s feelings of despair and loneliness. We all at times have been through it, or some may be going through it now.
After listening to the News one evening and hearing that one out of three people are going through loneliness, this has prompted me to write this article.
When I listen to what people are saying from the seat of their soul, their words of expression come out with the meaning of this rather traditional quote “Loneliness is not being alone but it’s the feeling that no one care’s”.
(A shocking 30-40% of people don’t think people care.)
Another form of loneliness is wanting a cherished companion or going through a loss with losing a companion or just being understood. The support is not always there. The feeling of loneliness…

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BELIEVING IN YOURSELF

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BELIEVING IN YOURSELF

INCREASE YOUR HAPPINESS WITH ENJOYING YOUR SOLITUDE
By Debra Boyle (Personal Holistic Coach)

So many times I hear of people’s feelings of despair and loneliness. We all at times have been through it, or some may be going through it now.
After listening to the News one evening and hearing that one out of three people are going through loneliness, this has prompted me to write this article.
When I listen to what people are saying from the seat of their soul, their words of expression come out with the meaning of this rather traditional quote “Loneliness is not being alone but it’s the feeling that no one care’s”.
(A shocking 30-40% of people don’t think people care.)
Another form of loneliness is wanting a cherished companion or going through a loss with losing a companion or just being understood. The support is not always there. The feeling of loneliness is very daunting. Loneliness can affect every age.
Linking Loneliness to Relationships
Relationships in my book is the greatest key to success. A relationship with one’s self, first and foremost. Your relationship with yourself, understanding yourself and trusting in yourself is the most powerful knowing to have. Without the confidence in yourself and having a good healthy outlook about yourself will ultimately block your drive with having a healthy relationship with others.
My experience shows me when a person feels closed off, trust has broken down inwardly and this reflects into different facets of life. It is like a spiral of events that just keeps on moving around with no place to go. Stagnant and stale. Any hope of renewal becomes distant and energy deplete’s very quickly. The fear of rejection keeps a person at a distance, which feeds loneliness and thus many reasons develop from this conflict with a person having lack of trust in themselves and this lack of trust coincides with not only the self but personal relationships, work and or social relationships. Loneliness can cause anger, sadness, isolation, burnout, lack of sleep and depression among just the few.

Quite often there is a misinformed association with loneliness. I believe Solitude is one of the answers to helping a person combat loneliness. With solitude, development of self-acceptance makes it easier to relate and connect on such a level that loneliness if not eradicated at the least becomes less of a threat to health and well-being. Loneliness is depleted with an actual transfer with a focus on a different outlook towards one’s relationship with one’s self and others.

The truth is people do care and people are important. There are people who will support and help rekindle your spark back into life.  So when you do find you are feeling alone, take this time to look at ways to improve in what ever facet of life you choose, in the space of solitude.
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Do people tell you, you are too sensitive?

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Beauty of whatever kind, in its supreme development, invariably excites the sensitive soul to tears.” Edgar Allen Poe.

Often sensitive individuals are more aware than others of changes and perceive things and react to things very differently when situations come to light. Sensitivity is valued very differently to a lot of people and cultures. Often feeling over whelmed with the strong intensity of the negative emotions that are picked up from other people or environments is a constant challenge. Learning to adapt to different social or work related environments and people at times may be a total draining task in itself. Sensitivity is not to be mixed up with Ego (a coping mechanism) or lack of self-control of the emotions or low self-esteem. Often reactions may show in this way. It is something we all experience at times and some more than others.

  • Often the side effects may be avoiding chaotic situations or people who push your buttons, create drama or avoid people who have a strong or straight to the point manner.
  • Often the constant feeling of “but they don’t understand me” arises. This can be a controlling trait to have if you don’t know how to manage being over sensitive and this may show in areas of your life you are not aware of and hinder growth and stop you doing something that you would love to do.

Emotions may become overwhelming and become a block for you to be able to receive what you truly deserve. Sensitivity is not a weakness it is a gift and a strength. In general, sensitive people are quite responsive to vibrations, moods, needs and environments.Does this sound like you or do you have someone close to you who is? Learning about yourself and learning new skills to manage your sensitivities to reacting and responding to situations that turn up and aligning your true values will give you confidence and tools to be able to cope.

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Live it, Breathe it, Believe it and Give it love.

How do we get to the state of personally evolving?

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Meanings Create Emotions 

The emotions we create is our vehicle for change.  What ever change we want we will create.  What we don’t want we also create.  Even in time’s of diversity we can create a larger picture from an internal and external of the core of us.  What ever meaning we attach to our emotions is what we will create.  The yearning to know how to bring joy into our lives and purpose is a given permission that we give ourselves.  This is not about me, it’s about you.  Then when is this about us and we?.  The words we give meaning to and where we place these words will determine the quality of how we view our contributions to ourselves and others.  What would it really mean to you and your life to live your true purpose.  To grow and have something to give to yourself and others…

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Vulture’s by Day Vampire’s by Night

Vulture’s by Day Vampire’s by Night

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They will feed off you, take you and break you.  The world we live in.  Every thing sucking us dry.  So many people destroying their own self believes inculcating a lack of self-confidence.  Sucking off every ounce of information they can.  Licking the benefits of one’s own self-destruction.   Taking credit for others work.  Wouldn’t you think there is enough to go around? … Not the Vulture’s of today’s society.  Exploiting with every opportunity they can.  Inspiration is what we are here for, to inculcate a joy and prosperous life in harmony with each other.  We do have the power to invest in all that surrounds us to bring a happier and more harmonious life for family and relationships alike.  Shedding tears with the unforgiving gives us no room for self-improvement.  We hear time and time again to no avail the repeated movements of one’s habitual thinking…. life can be cold, life is real and it is what it is until we do something about it.

“When you are on the right track you will feel the love in your heart, there is no denying it.  So on a hard day feel and breath.  Take yourself back to the love in your heart, take yourself back to your original inspiration.  Every opportunity is a place for you to recognize that place where you belong”

“Your internal self is what makes you, and the external world around you will break you. Know who you are and the external has no relevance. For it is your guide to where you must go.”

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